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Sunday, January 5, 2014

New Year Resolutions, Yet Again.

So, have you made a list of unrealistic solutions yet again only to throw them in the trash by the end of the first week? 

Or wait, have you made fun of all those who have the guts to take up a challenge and come up with the 'No resolutions for this year is my resolution' phrase yet again?

I recently read about how most, not all, resolutions fail to materialize because they tend to be way too unrealistic. By setting too high a standard for ourselves we give up even before we start. Some people might argue that New Year resolutions are no big deal. Of course. There is nothing special or great about a new year. If people believe that they have to start something, they can start anytime. Anytime is good, for a good start. Since people associate the beginning of a calendar year to a good start, they are tempted to take up a resolution. Now, that's not bad.

Keep your resolutions simple

Resolutions are over-rated and exaggerated. Sometimes people unnecessarily complicate even the simplest of things. Always remember the K.I.S.S policy. Keep It Simple, Silly. Resolutions are mostly associated with life goals and reforms. It need not be that way for all. The main idea is to instill a sense of discipline and judge how well one can survive with a few strict measures. Since we are the best judge of ourselves, we would know what excuses are genuine and what are not. We know what we are capable of and what we are not capable of. 
Like this friend of mine, who was addicted to coffee and decided to stay away from it, for a year. Another friend decided she wouldn't touch Lays packets for a year. Someone I know took a resolution to watch at least 3 movies a month. They all stood by their resolutions and even celebrated at the end of the year. It might be simple, it might seem simple. That's what motivated them to take it up. Maintaining it however would not have been as easy as it might have seemed, but still they pulled it off. Mainly because, all those resolutions had an element of fun in them.

So are you still against taking up New Year Resolutions? Even for fun?

On picking the right resolution

The trick is to start with a generic resolution, try a few of this and that before you narrow down to what exactly you could take up. For example, if take up reading, just start with developing the habit or increasing the frequency of reading. If you like reading novels, try completing a certain number of novels. If not, choose a particular topic and read about it. There are hundreds of website carrying volumes of information about practically everything under the sun. There are blogs and news websites and online magazines that present so many articles worth reading.

Similarly, if you take up writing, try writing something. Just something that you come across, an incident or your opinion about some thought. You would be amazed at what you can do. Just like how Chef Gusteau said "Anybody can cook", the same holds good for writing too. Force yourself to concentrate and focus for the first time. When you see the result in front of you, you would be tempted to write more.

Same holds true for travelling. Once we're stuck in our familiar territories, the more comforting they get, the more boring they become. Once in a while it is nice to get lost in a new land, marvel at the treasures of the land and see the sun rising and setting from a different place.

The most neglected resolutions are the ones which involve a lot of human interaction. We take our fellow human beings for granted. We might know how much we value and respect others, but the problem is only we know. Those concerned are oblivious to the fact and it's not fair blaming them for something that we fail to express. Spend time with family (No, watching TV together is not spending quality time. Take the idiot box out of the equation). Go out and just talk with them. Go for a long drive. Go for lunch. Go for a dinner. Go for a small holiday and talk.

As far as our friends are concerned, we stay in touch with a group. But with time, some people fade into the past. Trying bringing back those memories. Try to make it a point to call people on their birthday and speak for at least a minute. True everyone is busy, but this is probably the easiest way and sometimes the only way you can catch up with someone, whom you've been meaning to talk to for a long time. Some people travel far apart that sometimes when a friend from the past calls up just to say a ‘Hi’, people think it's for some favor. That's as worse as it can get.

Add an element of fun

Anyway, coming back to the resolutions, don’t take it too seriously. Take something for fun and try to see if you are able to stick to it. What about taking a resolution to cook different varieties? Or what about tasting different cuisines? That’s tempting right? If you can and feel you would be able to finish what you started, well done. Next time, try increasing the intensity. If not, think of what you are capable of pulling off and try that.

Have some fun. Remember, that’s the whole point of this exercise. Have fun. Remember to Enjoy.

Happy New Year :-)


56 comments:

  1. Thanks for the nice points. In addition to the ones you have mentioned, I want to add "self discipline".

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    1. Yes, it is good to inculcate discipline through simple means. Thank you :-)

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  2. Nice. I agree keep them simple. The easier the goals the faster you can reach them.

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    1. True, and the more motivating they seem.

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  3. To me new year resolutions are like promises made by politicians before elections ti humour the audience.Likewise the resolutions made at the beginning of the year are to lull our troubled conscience over our inadequacies.As you rightly pointed out all days are good for a resolve if only we are sincere about it.But no harm in having targets/tasks even if one fails to achieve them.

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    1. Yes, we can never learn without failures. It's ok to give up once in a while, set our priorities right and start again. We need not wait for a New Year for that :-)

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  4. I take up resolutions now and then, don't wait for a new year. In December, I decided to watch one movie per week and I am doing it. Before that, I decided to read two novels per month and I am doing this too, more or less. If resolutions are for fun, we'll do it anyway. I feel, we should take resolutions for serious things too...

    Destination Infinity

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    1. Yes, we need not wait for the New Year,but it people believe in the new beginning, they might as well take up one right ? :-)

      And most of the time, when the resolutions are serious and we are not equipped to handle them, that is when we end up giving up even before we start.

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  5. Earlier I made some resolutions and thankfully followed also:)

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  6. Generally I am not the one for resolutions at the time of new year. But I believe it applies to everything in general in life that we set as a goal to achieve. I agree with you where you say things should be kept simple, I guess that's where the trick lies. Expectations always disappoint and the same is the case when we expect too much from our own self.

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    1. Yes, we should keep in mind not to expect too much from ourselves either.

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  7. I agree. Adding the fun factor is very important otherwise life and resolutions become stale.

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  8. Even i feel that we can take up the challenge any time of the year, but generally people have this tendency to look for New year resolutions, and end up mostly not being able to stick to them.
    If we think we want to do something we should be able to do it any time without giving up.
    Well everyone is different, as long as we are not affected why bother.

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    1. Yes, any day is a good day. As someone said, we should know what we are capable of and shouldn't expect too much from ourselves.

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  9. Happy New year, great tips for new year resolutions

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  10. Wonderful pointers here. I did a post on new year resolutions too. A very happy 2014 to you too :)

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    1. I went and read your post too :-). Any day is a good start and we shouldn't probably wait only for the New Year :-).

      Happy New Year :-)

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  11. That is good... making resolutions. I used to do them years back.
    Happy New Year to you!

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    1. Welcome Indrani and Happy New Year ;-)

      Wow, you did take up a resolution? Inspiring :-)

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  12. Resolutions are never for me...I stopped taking that years ago :) ... For me decisions are more on my impulsive nature.... but at times I guess... making resolutions are definitely good.

    And Happy New year to you! :)

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    1. At times, yes they are.

      Happy New Year :-)

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  13. New year Resolutions are fun!

    Wish you and yours a brilliant 2014!!

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    1. It would be fun, if there is an element of fun :-)

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  14. This is the best advice I have found yet about resolutions. May your 2014 be merry and bright! ♥

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    1. Thank you so much :-) You just made my day :-)

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  15. May 2014 bring professional success and personal joy - Happy 2014 Ashwini :) - Nice post - if we need to change no point in waiting for a symbolic new year - resolutions to be made and followed for self-improvement :)

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    1. Thank you Mahesh :-) Wishing you a very happy and a prosperous year too :-)

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  16. Hm. That was an interesting take.

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  17. I've stopped making resolutions. I simply go with the flow - makes life easier and more exciting. Wish you a wonderful 2014. Thanks for stopping by my blog.

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    1. Yes, sometimes it would be wise to go with the flow and take up something rather than having to wait for a particular time. :-)

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  18. This is good idea and good points.
    Thanks

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  19. Ashwini this is a motivating post.I belong to the tribe of -no resolutions.I am always trying to get over my inadequacies and better myself.How far i succeed ,i don't know,but i do try.

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    1. Yes. Sometimes we have to take up things rather than waiting for the right time. That is a sign of success indeed :-)

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  20. Btw you did not tell us your resolutions.

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  21. I don't make resolutions as they never seem to get kept!

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    1. Then probably take up one that can be :-)

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  22. Wow! It was a cute and simple way to keep resolutions healthy! I am among the ones who doesn't bother to make any resolution and proudly say- "No resolution this year, as it doesn't really work out!"
    But now, am thinking to go for one! A wonderful read it was :)

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    1. Oh. Thank you so much. To think that this post made you want to think your decision again. I'm happy. Thank you so much :-)

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  23. I read somewhere that new year resolutions are like the "To do list" for the 1st week of the new year. Once the 1st week is done and dusted, the to do list is also done with - irrespective of whether it has been achieved or not.. :) I have some resolutions, they are still pending :P

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    1. You have another 50 weeks to go. Good luck :-)

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  24. My new year resolutions are more of general indications into the next year. Like, I want a better job by Dec 31 this year etc.

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    1. Yes. If you ask me, I'd say that's exactly the way to go. Good Luck :-)

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  25. The New Year resolution to travel more fructified on 2 Jan itself:) The reason for delayed reading of this yet another nice post, Ashwini:) have a lovely New Year ahead!

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    1. That's so nice to hear. Keep travelling more. Keep writing more. Happy New Year Sir :-)

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  26. Well for one, I call mine a wishlist and not a resolution list...so no pressure ;)
    Secondly, I find it better to quantify my resolutions (wishes!) - like one blog post a week, or three trips a year, or 4 days of yoga per week! Hope you have a great new year!

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    1. Yes, when there is no pressure, things automatically become easier.

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  27. I am all up for resolutions.. And I have been sticking to mine since a last couple of years.. :)

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    1. Wow Jyotsna. Aren't you an inspiration for all of us here :-) Thanks for dropping by :-)

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